The average adult will look, wonder what is wrong or how they got that way but never ask.  But not those sweet young children.  They will walk right up, touch it, feel it and ask why don’t you have fingers? What Happen?

We ran into the most precious thing this last Sunday.  We were at church and during service the minister called all the children up for Children’s sermon.  All the children went up and sat down. Haylee sat down on the steps and a young boy, probably about 2 maybe three, came and sat down next to Haylee.

At first he did not notice her hand.  Which actually happens alot.  But then after a couple minutes Haylee moved her hands around and he noticed.  Be began to hold her hand.  Touch her fingers and just softly play with her hand.

Haylee is a very patient person and a very kind and compationate person.  He let the little boy look touch and feel her little hand.  The whole time he was doing this Haylee did not frown or get upset.  Instead she sat up there with the biggest smile you had ever seen.

It brought tears to my eyes to see not only this young courious boy up there checking things out but to also see Haylee up there not being upset but rather letting the boy explore and figure things out.

I signed to Haylee good job.  I wanted her to know right then and there just how proud I was of her and what an awesome job she was doing.

We don’t mind if you ask us what happen.  Actually we prefer it over staring.  We want to tell everyone about ABS and how it has not only effected us but how it has blessed our lives and  made us the people we are today.

The first issue we have is that because Haylee has no fingers (only nubs) on her little hand then we have an issue with circulation to her little hand. Because we have an issue with circulation we have to watch that we keep that little hand extra warm. Her little hand turns blue very easy and very fast if it is not kept warm. As Haylee has grown up we have taught her to keep an eye on her little hand and if it starts to turn blue the first things she needs to do is put it under her clothing in her arm pit to warm it up fast. And Haylee has done very good about knowing when her little hand is getting too cold and does exactly what we have showed her to do.

The other issue we have is finding gloves for her little hand. It is very hard to find gloves for both hands and normally we have to buy two pair. But before we put on her glove we have socks that people (including us when Haylee had flower) us for prostisis. She wears that a lot. Sometimes she wears it under her gloves sometimes she just wears it when she feels her little hand getting cold. I noticed her recently that she has been carrying those socks in her backpack so that if her little hand gets cold at school.

My little girl is growing up more and more each day.

Haylee has Nubs. Nubs are just one form of ABS. Nubs happen when the growth of fingers is stopped at an early stage of development. Some children have small nubs like Haylee and other children have longer nubs.

So just because we have one hand, two hands or no hands does not mean we can all tie shoes the same.  Nan did an amazing blog post with a video that I want to share with you.

Sometimes things can be so difficult for little Bug.  We’ve tried for months to teach little Bug how to lace a shoe with a cardboard cutout, lacing cards even tennis shoes but with no luck.  This summer Bug took OT and his instructor loaned us a teaching tool that made all the difference in the world. He learned to lace his shoe in 3 days. Yes, can you believe it, 3 days! I was blown away and he was so proud of himself.  We are still working on the bow tying but we got half of it down so we are both so proud.  Just look at him go.

That is just a snippet.  If you want to read the whole thing and watch Bug tie his shoes and My BFF help her son then head on over to A Mom Blog and check it out.  She even gives the link to that amazing shoe that helped Bug learn to tie his shoes.  OH and….

WAY TO GO BUG!  WE ARE SUPER PROUD OF YOU.

We think about those things. We do a lot of trial and error in our house. We think about everything we do first with two hands and then we figure out how we can do this with just one hand. If we can’t figure it out then we go to the internet or our wonderful friend Darin to see if there are other ways to do it. Have you ever sat down and really thought cutting up your meat with just one hand?

Today Haylee and I were making a cake and it required eggs. So I assigned Haylee getting the eggs out of the fridge. I watched carefully just to see how she was going to handle holding eggs and climbing back out of the fridge. (We own a fridge that has the freezer on the bottom so many times you will find Haylee in the fridge literally) Haylee pulled the egg out of the carton and cradled it in the nook of her elbow of her little hand. It was the cutest thing and brought tears to my eyes.

I thought my daughter is going to be perfect. She is going to do anything anyone else in the world does but with one hand. She will cook and clean and work and get married and have children. That is a dream every mom has for her kids. And it is the same dream I have for my little hand big heart daughter.

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Is it opening presents on my birthday or Christmas? NO.  It is having a day all to myself? Nope.  SO what really makes me happy?  My Family.  I am blessed with a truly amazing family that makes me smile each and every day.  I love the fact that each memeber of my family has something very special about them.

But more then anything I am thankful for the gift God handed to me to take care of for him.  It was the gift of Haylee.  Haylee is a very special gift from God and if asked she will tell you that.  She may have five fingers but just watch the things she can do with only five fingers.

Someday when you think about it.  Try to go your whole day with only using your five fingers.  Yah much harder then it sounds.  But she does it and she is happy about it.  She pursues her dreams and does not let the fact that she only has five fingers slow her down.

We need to take advice from Haylee and be happy no matter what God gave us or how full our plate is.  Happiness makes the world go around and this week is the pefect week to show that.