Ok so our child was born different.  Ok so our child was born with a limb difference due to Amniotic Band Syndrome or whatever other reason might of caused our children to be different.  But does that give your children any right to be mean to my child?  We did not choose for our children to be born with a missing hand, or fingers, or arm, or leg, or nubs.  We did not choose for everyone to stare out our children and make them feel different.  But would we change anything about our children.. NEVER!

This weekend something happen that really pulled my heart strings.  It was a very hard situation but we made it through it.  We went camping like we do most weekends.  And Haylee decided to go play on the playground.  She was gone for about 10 minutes when she came back trying so hard not to cry.  Of course first look and I could tell something was wrong.  I asked her what was wrong and she said nothing.  I asked her again and she began to cry.

She said Mom they said I was scary and creepy.

THEY SAID WHAT???

WHO SAID THAT????

She said mom don’t go over there making a big deal out of it.  I told her that I will always stick up for her and have her back. She smiled.  She said they all gathered around her looking at her hand and then one child said something and it went from there.  She said it hurt her feelings and they would not play with her.

I explained to her that as much as we want to blame the children for what they say that often times it is not their fault because it is the parents that don’t explain to their children that every one is different one way or another and that just because someone is different does not make them scary or creepy…

I don’t understand how one child could say to another child you are scary and creepy.  How would they like it or react if my daughter told them the same thing.  They would be mad or hurt also… They would want to go have some words with my child if she said something like that to their child…. NO!

But I have to remember.  Haylee has been loaned to me from God because he has huge plans for her and I need to go the direction he points me.

SO I am sure you are wondering how things ended.  Well I told Haylee come on I am sure they just don’t understand.  Let’s go teach them.

So I went back with Haylee and when the first boy started to stare I said.  You know it really is not polite to stare but if you have a question we would be more than happy to answer your questions.  And let me tell you the questions started coming.  We answered all of them and by the time we were done playing Haylee had tons of new friends that were educated on how to react next time they see something different.

So as much as we want to over react and freak out sometimes we have to take a step back and look at the big picture first..