Teaching our kids how important saving money is

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I remember when I was growing up that I never receive allowance.  Yes I did chores but it was part of every day living not part of doing it so I could earn money.  I remember asking for money and normally it being handed to me.  I also remember never being taught the importance of money and saving money.  Because it was always just handed to me I never really knew what it was like to earn money and save money.

Once I was old enough to be out on my own I had  no idea how to manage money, save money or spend money.  I blew everything I made right away and then struggled until the next paycheck.  I did not know what  a budget was or even how to write a check or get a checking account.  I did not know that if I wrote a check without money in the bank than I had to pay that money back plus some.  I literally ruined my credit at a very young age.

But as I got older and wiser I guess you could say it finally hit me.  What I need to do to make it in life.  I had to learn to save money, budget, and make my money last.  And ever since than I haven been on a long hard road to building my credit back up.   I vowed to teach my children the value of a dollar and how to save, spend, and donate money.

Since our kids were very young we taught them that they had to work for their money and that if they wanted to buy something they could do one of two things.  They could either use their own money or if they really wanted it they could borrow from us but they would need to pay us back.  We have been teaching them how to make a budget.  How to save their money and not spend it right away.  We have taught them that if you really want it you need to think about it for at least a week before you purchase it.  Research it and make sure you can’t find it anywhere else cheaper.

But most importantly we have taught them the value of a dollar and how to save their money.  They don’t waste their money.  Both of our youngest kids save their money and even use their own money to buy Christmas presents for the family.  Not to bad for a 16 year old and a 10 year old huh???

What are you doing to teach your kids how important saving your money and the value of a dollar?

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Halloween Fun with a Little Hand

Well as always Halloween was a great time.  Haylee has always loved Halloween because of the candy.   But she also loves it because it is the one time of the year where she can dress up and be anyone she wants to be.

This year she dressed up as a blood vampiress..  She was super cute and brought home a ton of candy.

Haylee has also adapted very well to carrying her trick or treat basket on her little hand so that she can get candy with her big hand.   The only little problem we had this year was her little hand got a little cold.

How was your Halloween?

Playing sports with a little hand

When Haylee was born missing fingers on her left hand due to ABS and if you would of asked me if she would of been playing sports I probably would of broke into tears and said no.  But I have been proven wrong over and over again.  Haylee plays sports and rocks at playing them.

We have ran into a couple sports that have made it difficult for Haylee such as softball, tee ball and volleyball.  I am a proud mom to say that Haylee has even tried those sports.  There is nothing she will not try once.

But besides that this girl rocks.  Her newest sport that she loves is soccer.  I know right.  No  hands how perfect is that.  But I was still scared the first time she went to practice with her team mates.  I was worried about what they would say to her or if they would tease her or now.  But never fear.  She jump in there and made friends super quick.  They kids looked at her hands and went about their business.   I even saw a few of them grab and hold her hand when they had to do something that dealt with running while holding hands.

When Haylee was younger I was very concerned on if she would ever play any sport but each and every day Haylee proves me wrong and washes all my fears away.

Zhu Zhu For Me Zhu Zhu For You

I remember when Zhu Zhu’s first came out and Haylee begged me for a Zhu Zhu pet.  I will admit I did not give in at first.  But since that day the Zhu-niverse has expanded, I finally gave in and now have many Zhu Zhu’s in my house.

Many years and Zhu Zhu’s later we now have a whole Zhu-niverse in my daughters room.  We have pets, puppies, hamsters, kung Zhu’s and so many different things to play with that on a good day I can’t even count how many there are and don’t think we could ever get bored playing with Zhu Zhu’s.

One of my favorite things about Zhu Zhu’s is that you can’t out grow them.  My 9 year old daughter has them, my 5 year old nephew has them, and my 10 year old niece even collects them.  Recently, we have added a new Zhu Zhu Puppy, Zhu Zhu Puppy outfit and Fun Time Laundry Room to my daughters never ending Zhu-niverse.   And I have to be the first to admit that both my daughter and myself have had an amazing time playing, dressing, and washing her Zhu Zhu puppies cloths.  I think that thing that made me really smile about the Laundry Room was the fact that even Zhu Zhu Puppies need to wash their cloths and take care of themselves.

We have had so much fun with our Zhu Zhu puppy and outfit that we have the opportunity to share a Zhu Zhu puppy and outfit with you.  All you need to do is leave us a comment telling us who in your house or family would like to adopt a Zhu Zhu Puppy and why you think they would like to Adopt one.  We will choose the winners on September 12th.

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Why We Love Crocs

So as many of you know we are madly in love with crocs.  But not because of the same reasons that average person is.  Have you ever gone into a croc store and really looked around?  First if you have not you have to go do it and plan to send half they day there madly in love with everything you see.  But it is not because of all the pretty colors and different styles.

It is because Crocs slip on.  And for us that is awesome.  Because with one hand, tying your shoes is very hard.  With crocs they have so many different styles of shoes that we can find slip on shoes for just about all seasons.

Crocs not only had 10 fingered kids in mind when they created crocs but they also had our kids with special needs in mind.  They make it so easy for our kids to still be stylish but also be able to slip on these shoes and go.

Haylee loves this because she does not have to ask her teachers or friends at school to help her lace her shoes up.

So the next time you go to buy a awesome pair of shoes.. remember who makes buying shoes super easy.. CROCS…..

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Our Critter Friends Looking For New Homes

Sometimes missing fingers cause hurt feelings

Ok so our child was born different.  Ok so our child was born with a limb difference due to Amniotic Band Syndrome or whatever other reason might of caused our children to be different.  But does that give your children any right to be mean to my child?  We did not choose for our children to be born with a missing hand, or fingers, or arm, or leg, or nubs.  We did not choose for everyone to stare out our children and make them feel different.  But would we change anything about our children.. NEVER!

This weekend something happen that really pulled my heart strings.  It was a very hard situation but we made it through it.  We went camping like we do most weekends.  And Haylee decided to go play on the playground.  She was gone for about 10 minutes when she came back trying so hard not to cry.  Of course first look and I could tell something was wrong.  I asked her what was wrong and she said nothing.  I asked her again and she began to cry.

She said Mom they said I was scary and creepy.

THEY SAID WHAT???

WHO SAID THAT????

She said mom don’t go over there making a big deal out of it.  I told her that I will always stick up for her and have her back. She smiled.  She said they all gathered around her looking at her hand and then one child said something and it went from there.  She said it hurt her feelings and they would not play with her.

I explained to her that as much as we want to blame the children for what they say that often times it is not their fault because it is the parents that don’t explain to their children that every one is different one way or another and that just because someone is different does not make them scary or creepy…

I don’t understand how one child could say to another child you are scary and creepy.  How would they like it or react if my daughter told them the same thing.  They would be mad or hurt also… They would want to go have some words with my child if she said something like that to their child…. NO!

But I have to remember.  Haylee has been loaned to me from God because he has huge plans for her and I need to go the direction he points me.

SO I am sure you are wondering how things ended.  Well I told Haylee come on I am sure they just don’t understand.  Let’s go teach them.

So I went back with Haylee and when the first boy started to stare I said.  You know it really is not polite to stare but if you have a question we would be more than happy to answer your questions.  And let me tell you the questions started coming.  We answered all of them and by the time we were done playing Haylee had tons of new friends that were educated on how to react next time they see something different.

So as much as we want to over react and freak out sometimes we have to take a step back and look at the big picture first..

 

First Day of 5th Grade

I still look back to the day Haylee was born and all the worries I had with her having a upper limb deformity due to Amniotic Band Syndrome.  I worried about the kids teasing her because she had small nubbs on her little hand.  I worried about what she would not be able to do with only one hand.  Let’s just face it.  I worried about everything.

And here we are 10 years later and Haylee’s first day of 5th grade.  And Haylee is doing everything all the other kids in her class were doing.   Everything except Monkey Bars.  That one really still bothers her.  She wants to bad to be a monkey like all the other kids but with only five fingers to hold on it just is not happening.

Fifth grade is just the be beginning for us.  She is about to be a tween and that is when the fun begins.  But you know the awesome thing about her becoming a tween.  She is going to be an amazing tween that does anything the other kids do but with one hand instead of two.

Fifth grade is when we start worrying more about our hair and outfit.  Firth grade is the year before we get into middle school.  Fifth grade is someone what of a mile stone.  It is when you little princess turns into a tween and begins to really shed her wings and grow into something amazing.

So here is to our first day of 5th grade.

 

All Wrapped Up Wordless Wednesday

Standing out in the crowd with Amniotic Band Syndrome

Amniotic band syndrome makes our kids stand out in a crowd.  Even if they have been effected so very little that no one even notices they still stand out in a crowd from all the other kids. ABS effects each child differently.  Physically and emotionally.

As most of you probably know we moved to a new town about 7 months ago and although Haylee did to go to school here for half a year she still has not made tons of friends and to be honest Jim and I have not made too many friends either.

So today I noticed as we were standing in line at a buffet Haylee began to hid her hand and cover it up.  This confused me and puzzled me for a minute until we were able to get to the table and talk about it.  I asked Haylee why are you hiding your hand?  She said everyone was staring at me.  I said no sweetie.  This is a small town and our whole family is new.  They were staring at Mom and Dad way more than you trying to figure out who we were and what we were doing there.   You know how small towns are.  She smiled right away and said oh yah I forget and the little hand came back out.

But I have to also remember that Haylee is going to be 10 years old soon and has become more worried about her appearance and what people think of her and also has become worried about fitting in and making friends.  She is worried about standing out in the crowd since she has a little hand and no one else around here does.

I often times sort of forget about Haylee’s hand because it is so normal to me and I have to remember that she is different and she needs those extra special hugs and kisses to reassure her that everything is ok and that she is going to have the most amazing life imaginable.

So as our children grow older we have to continue to talk to them.  Tell them how special and important they are.  Tell the that standing out in a crowd is not always a bad thing but also a good thing too.  Remind them that they are beautifully made and that God has huge plans for them.